Babies, Weddings and Co-Habitation - oh my!

Have I mentioned that my wedding is 3 weeks away? Oh, it is.

It will be small, intimate and fun.

Am I ready?

NO.

I don't know about most brides but for some reason I am such a slacker bride. Maybe it's the brand new baby, maybe it's the seemingly short timeline, or maybe I'm just excited to get it done. (I mean that last one in a totally, "I'm so excited to finally be Mrs. Kellogg!" way, not like, "ugh, just get it over with already.")

We have pretty much everything done. My dress is in final alterations. My shoes are ordered. Catering, flowers, pictures, DJ, venues, etc. all done. Which is kind of impressive considering we started planning about 8 weeks ago! 

Why so rushed?! 

When we first found out we were pregnant we thought we should get married right away. Poor choice. Planning while finishing up my last quarter of college, still interning and also puking 24/7 was not in the cards. When it came down to it we didn't want to rush something just because we were having a baby. We loved each other enough to be in a stable, committed relationship for three and a half years so why get married so fast? We put it on the back burner and decided that next September would be perfect. It would mark our 5 year anniversary, 3 years of living together and June's 1st birthday. Perfect, right?

June was born, Thomas couldn't stand the thought of us not being all legally Kelloggs. He wanted to get married FAST. So here we are. December 23, 2011 I will become Mrs. Kellogg. One hitch...no one will perform our ceremony.

We technically don't have anyone to marry us. I'm going to try my best not to get political here but this has caused some major issues for us. Why won't any of the pastors we've asked marry us? Because we live together. So far it even hasn't been the baby, it's that we LIVE together. We have a baby, the jig is up. I'm a little more than peeved with the situation. Here we are, trying to do the "right"* thing and we can't. Are we supposed to live apart and somehow raise a baby together? Not sure exactly how that would work out.

I have hope though that we have finally found someone that will perform the ceremony. If I had known 8 weeks ago that we would have this much trouble I would have asked someone to get their license to marry us and avoid the offensive responses. 

I can truly say though that I am more excited every day that I get to celebrate my love with those closest to the both of us. And wear a pretty dress and awesome shoes.

Here's my dress!

(That's funny because this is awful and would make my ass look HUGE(er)!)

*I say "right" because I don't think that having the same last name makes us any more of a family than we already are. We love each other, we are committed to each other and we have a lifelong bond - a piece of paper doesn't get to define us. I'm marrying Thomas because I love him. Not because I have to. Rant over.